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  “超男”和“剩女”
 
从五六十年代走过来的我们的父母大致都有这样的印象，以前在中国传统的规划配置中，一个钢铁厂旁边通常会规划一个纺织厂，这样做有意无意间保证了一个地区人口男女比例的总体协调，然而，现在因为汹涌的人才流动打破了传统的资源平衡，造成两大“困难”群体的出现——即“超男”和“剩女”。

没体会过找不到媳妇的人，是很难体会那份辛酸和尴尬的，让这些剩下的男人和女人痛苦的不仅是找对象的困难，其实更让他们倍感伤害的是人们的眼光，人们总是认为他们不够优秀才被挑剩下了，但很少有人会从男女比例总体协调与否的角度来考虑这个问题。

这就造成一个事实，无论你优秀与否，因为一些条件的限制和制约，总会有一定比例的男人或者女人，在总体比例的影响下必须单身或者无法找到固定的性伴侣，而事实上，有一些单身女性不仅不是因为他们不优秀，相反正是因为太优秀了，也成为男人们选择时候的一个顾虑，而他们本身也因为是社会单位的骨干精英，而无暇顾及爱情生活，过了婚恋最佳年龄便成了老大难的问题，而这部分女性不再选择婚姻，使原本就资源紧张的男女比例更加紧张，不知道这对社会和男人以及女人自身来说是福是祸？

著名经济学家、诺贝尔奖的获得者阿玛蒂亚第一个对此提出了担忧，男女比例严重失调，正逐渐引起男孩的担心，许多“多余”出来的男孩子贫穷、没有根基、没有固定的性伙伴和家庭（观念），他们会通过非法或非正正常手段来解决性问题，这的确是令人担忧的。

在我们一边为此感到忧虑的时候，另一边却还有着各种许多与此形式不相符，与情况好转的愿望相违背的事情发生，如通过B超等现代科技手段判别是男是女而对性别本身人为加以选择，而大多数时候人们是只会选男不选女，这不能不说是一个造成男女比例失调的重要原因，但追究根源，重男轻女的传统观念才是真正的动因。

由此看来，造成男女比例失调的原因是多方面的，但我们不能回避的是，当这个事实已经产生并渐趋严重的时候，我们每个人都能想见它的危害，和给我们的生活带来的严重影响以及后果，重要的是，在行动和思想意识上要对此有积极的应对，谁都不要说这个事情与自己无关，其实当你在社会中开始生活恋爱的时候，你已经被一个无形而又巨大的力量推入到这样一个比例所带来影响的选择中，而无论你是谁、你的条件怎样，我想这样的困难其实每个人都多多少少有所体会，我们更希望通过事实来说话。

即便你已经结婚你还有孩子在未来需要选择，即便你选择单身，你不能回避的是自己仍然有性的需求，以及在这种需求下通过不固定的性伴侣所带来的风险，至于社会的稳定以及社会经济利益在这方面所受到的影响，更是宏观的，也是难以预料的，我们不妨做好准备，尽量不让事情变得那么糟，那么今天哪怕我们没有聊出什么具体答案，这样的交流却也是意义重大的。
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